Life and Love In the Q Podcast

The new (old) type of self-care that is on the rise

This is the final segment of the self-care tools that Jill and Dr. Treisha have found to be helpful to them-- and this self-care tool from Dr. Treisha may surprise you. It's definitely not new, but it's gotten a bad rap for decades. Lately, however, it seems like people are rediscovering the many benefits of this potential path to healing.
Note that you should always consult your medical care team prior to engaging in any type of care. We're not it. We're just two people sharing our experience and what worked for us. Okay? Great. 
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When We Don’t Feel Good-- Even with Self Care

In this episode, Jill and Dr. Treisha continue their discussion of self-care with a deeper dive into two of the somato-emotional tools they've used to help them take care of their physical, mental, and emotional health. This episode also dives into a very frank discussion about not feeling good even when we do all of the things to help us feel good. It's an honest talk about why real life can just give us more than we're prepared to handle-- even with all of the self-care tools at our disposal. 
And THIS conversation continued on long enough that we broke it into another episode for next week where Dr. Treisha discusses one self-care tool that you may be shocked to find out she is a fan of!
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For questions, comments, and more email: LifeAndLoveIntheQ@gmail.com 
Schedule a counseling session with Dr. Treisha at https://calendly.com/treishapeterson/60min
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More from Treisha Peterson, PhD: https://linktr.ee/treishapeterson
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Let’s Clear Up ”Self-Care” Confusion

Ahhh... self-care. That thing which every person is told to make time for-- what also being wildly unclear about what self-care actually is and what types of self-care are beneficial. In the first episode of this two-part series, we talk about the specific tools that have worked for us, from the free to the bigger investments of time and money. We also discuss what types of things are NOT actually self-care and what things may be self-care to some but maladaptive to others. 
Have a type of self-care that works for you? Share with us at LifeAndLoveInTheQ@gmail.com and maybe we'll include your answer in a future episode!
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What the heck is an Unsafe Ally?

Allyship is important for marginalized groups, especially nowadays. Allies almost always take a risk by supporting those who need it, at no real benefit to themselves.
But is there a such thing as an unsafe ally? And why would someone hold themselves out as an ally if they're not genuinely supporting those they claim to support?
In this episode, Jill and Treisha talk about unsafe allyship and what things people say and do that can make them feel like unsafe allies. If this episode brings up any questions or feelings in you, please reach out to us at LifeAndLoveInTheQ@gmail.com. We'd love to know what you think!
 
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Getting Clear on Gender Dysphoria and Identity Distress

Our world is rapidly evolving when it comes to our conversations around the concepts of gender, sex, and identity. Understandably, it can be challenging to understand what some terminology means. In this episode, Jill and Dr. Treisha dive into two terms that they've received multiple questions on lately-- gender dysphoria and identity distress. Through talking about it, they each had their own lightbulb moments on the terms and how they show up in our lives.
Have something LGBTQIA+ related that you'd like more clarity on? Email LifeAndLoveInTheQ@gmail.com 
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What is Triangulation and Why Is It Messing with Your Conflict Resolution?

What the heck is triangulation? In this episode, Jill and Dr. Treisha talk about the many ways triangulation appears in our conflicts or identity discrepancies, and why it has the power to really mess things up. As with so many things in life, awareness of when triangulation is present is an important first step.
You'll hear in today's episode that Jill is continuing to wrap her brain around the concept. If you are too, reach out to us via email with your questions at LifeAndLoveInTheQ@gmail.com or contact us directly on social media. 

Bonus Episode: Hard Choices and How to Make Them (from Episode 18)

Way back in the day in Episode 18, we discussed some ways to handle when life hands you hard choices. This is a bonus episode we recorded from that as our conversation continued. 
Treisha discusses why she taught her yoga students to fail at poses.
Jill discusses why people come out and what the heck took her so long to get there.
Why there isn't more knowledge explaining the coming out process now?
How do you know if you're LGBTQ?
The hierarchy of wisdom that makes us question our life choices.
Who is voicing your narrative?
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For questions, comments, and more email: LifeAndLoveIntheQ@gmail.com 
Schedule a counseling session with Dr. Treisha at https://calendly.com/treishapeterson/60min
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More from Treisha Peterson, PhD: https://linktr.ee/treishapeterson
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Uncertainty Trauma and What Happens When We Stay in the In-Between

We often think of trauma as a certain event that happens and has a profound impact on our well-being. But what about when you're stuck in a constant conflict with no resolution in sight? Uncertainty trauma happens during the shifts in our life and can result in additional shame and masking. It's also where microaggressions show up quite often!
Treisha shares some examples of uncertainty trauma related to the church and what that means for families and provides tools and ideas for breaking out of the uncertainty loop. 
Listen in and let us know what you think!
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For questions, comments, and more email: LifeAndLoveIntheQ@gmail.com 
Schedule a counseling session with Dr. Treisha at https://calendly.com/treishapeterson/60min
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More from Treisha Peterson, PhD: https://linktr.ee/treishapeterson
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Privilege, Micro-Aggressions, and Why Some People Just Don’t Get It

Nearly everyone understands the basics of privilege-- those qualities or life experiences that give one person an extra advantage over another. But it is easy to miss the mark on what your privileges are if you haven't met someone without that advantage. 
Microaggressions are those small actions and words that cause minor harm over an extended period of time. Jill calls it "death by a thousand paper cuts" because the damage adds up over time. Can you think of any you've felt in your own life?
Privilege means moving through a world that is tailored to your being and ability. Treisha shares the beauty of yoga and why it helps meet people where they're at and Jill brings in her experience as a former homeschooler where kids could be taught according to their strengths.
We'd love to know if you had any lightbulb moments from this episode. If so, email us at LifeAndLoveInTheQ@gmail.com. Thank you for your support!
Connect With Us:
For questions, comments, and more email: LifeAndLoveIntheQ@gmail.com 
Schedule a counseling session with Dr. Treisha at https://calendly.com/treishapeterson/60min
Schedule a support session with Jillian Abby at https://calendly.com/jillianabby/lgbtqiasupport
More from Treisha Peterson, PhD: https://linktr.ee/treishapeterson
More from Jillian Abby: https://linktr.ee/jillianabby

Pride Month Replay: Out of the closet

Happy Pride Month, Q Crew! We thought for this week we'd dig one of the most popular episodes from our early days and share it with you again... since our listenership has grown quite a bit and you may have missed this one.
Pride is a celebration of the LGBTQIA+ identity and the allies who support them. It's a civil rights movement to honor the achievements of the past and recognize areas where more work still needs to be done (strong side-eye to Florida, Texas, and Tennessee).
Pride is also a time to hear others' stories. In this episode, Jill discusses why coming out is so much more complicated than people realize. Treisha shares her own experience when her child came out and what that was like as a parent.
We hope you'll give it a listen (or relisten) and share the episode with those who need to hear it. Thank you for your support!
Connect With Us:
For questions, comments, and more email: LifeAndLoveIntheQ@gmail.com 
Schedule a counseling session with Dr. Treisha at https://calendly.com/treishapeterson/60min
Schedule a support session with Jillian Abby at https://calendly.com/jillianabby/lgbtqiasupport
More from Treisha Peterson, PhD: https://linktr.ee/treishapeterson
More from Jillian Abby: https://linktr.ee/jillianabby